Getting by with a little help from real friends

PTSD Patrol
Kathie Costos
November 30, 2020

Don't you know I'm gonna make it with my friends? (Ah, with a little help from my friends)
I promised myself I'd get by (Ah, with a little help from my friends)
Said I'm gonna try and not work too hard (Ooh)
Well I, yeah yeah yeah
(Could it be anybody?)
Oh there's gotta be somebody
Don't treat me wrong Lord
Joe Crocker

...but what if you don't have real friends you can turn to to help you? That happens a lot more times than people want to admit. I know it has happened to me. I thought some people were my friends but it turned out, they only wanted me around when they needed something, but were never there when I did. If you have one or two real friends, then you are blessed. It has more to do with who you meet than who you are. If you need help with PTSD, then seek out a support group. That is where you do matter to people who understand you, and they want to help you as much as they want your help..and then you get by with a little help for your real friends!

Remember, it is your life...get in and drive it! #BreakTheSilence and #TakeBackYourLife from #PTSD

What would you do if I sang out of tune?

Would you stand up and walk out on me?

Lend me your ears and I'll sing you a song

I will try not to sing out of key

Oh, baby I get by (Ah, with a little help from my friends)

All I need is my buddies (Ah, with a little help from my friends)

I say I'm gonna get high (Ah, with a little help from my friends)

Oh yeah (Ooh)

What do I do when my love is away?

(Does it worry you to be alone?)

No no

How do I feel at the end of the day?

(Are you sad because you're on your own?)

I tell ya I don't get sad no more

Gonna get by with my friends (Ah, with a little help from my friends)

Yeah yeah, I'm gonna try (Ah, with a little help from my friends)

Keep on getting high, oh Lord (Ooh)

I need somebody to love

(Could it be anybody?)

All I need is someone

That's just where I'm going, yeah

Somebody knows that's where I'm showing

Baby

Said I'm gonna make it with my friends (Ah, with a little help from my friends)

Oh, I'm gonna keep on trying (Ah, with a little help from my friends)

I'm gonna keep on trying (Ooh)

I'm certain it happens all the time, yeah

(What do you see when you turn out the light?)

I can't tell you but it sure feels like mine

Don't you know I'm gonna make it with my friends? (Ah, with a little help from my friends)

I promised myself I'd get by (Ah, with a little help from my friends)

Said I'm gonna try and not work too hard (Ooh)

Well I, yeah yeah yeah

(Could it be anybody?)

Oh there's gotta be somebody

Don't treat me wrong Lord

Oh yeah yeah

Said I'm gonna get by with my friends, yeah (Ah, with a little help from my friends)

Oh, yes I'm gonna keep trying, now (Ah, with a little help from my friends)

Keep on trying with my friends (Ah, with a little help from my friends)

Oh, I'm never gonna stop there, oh (Ah, with a little help from my friends)

I'm gonna keep on trying, yeah yeah (Ah, with a little help from my friends)

I'm getting high, I'm gonna make time, oh Lord (Ooh)

Gonna get by with my friends

Oh, I'm gonna get on by, yes I'm gonna get on by, my Lord

I'm gonna tell them all about it, I'm gonna tell them all, yeah yeah

Source: LyricFind

Songwriters: John Lennon / Paul McCartney

With A Little Help From My Friends lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC 

Letting music help you Drift Away

PTSD Patrol

Kathie Costos

November 29, 2020

Oh, give me the beat boys, and free my soul
I want to get lost in your rock and roll and drift away
Beginning to think that I'm wastin' time
I don't understand the things I do
The world outside looks so unkind
So I'm countin' on you to carry me through
If you haven't guessed by now, the feature video on PTSD Patrol is Dobie Gray Drift Away.

Hopefully by now, with all the music being shared, you've noticed how you mood does change, even if it is just for a little while. This is why music therapy works on PTSD. It takes your mind away from your problems and helps to teach your body to calm down again.

This is one of the best songs to explain that.

Remember, it is your life...get in and drive it. #BreakTheSilence and #TakeBackYourLife from #PTSD

Day after day I'm more confused

Yet I look for the light in the pouring rain

You know that's a game that I hate to lose

I'm feelin' the strain, ain't it a shame

Oh, give me the beat boys, and free my soul

I want to get lost in your rock and roll and drift away

Oh, give me the beat boys, and free my soul

I want to get lost in your rock and roll and drift away

Beginning to think that I'm wastin' time

I don't understand the things I do

The world outside looks so unkind

So I'm countin' on you to carry me through

Oh, give me the beat boys, and free my soul

I want to get lost in your rock and roll and drift away

Give me the beat boys, and free my soul

I want to get lost in your rock and roll and drift away

And when my mind is free

You know a melody can move me

And when I'm feelin' blue

The guitar's comin' through to soothe me

Thanks for the joy that you've given me

I want you to know I believe in your song

Rhythm and rhyme and harmony

You help me along makin' me strong

Oh, give me the beat boys, and free my soul

I want to get lost in your rock and roll and drift away

Give me the beat boys, and free my soul

I want to get lost in your rock and roll and drift away

Oh, give me the beat boys, and free my soul

I want to get lost in your rock and roll and drift away

Hey, hey, give me the beat boys, and free my soul

I want to get lost in your rock and roll and drift away

Na na na, won't ya, won't ya take me

Oh oh, take me

Won't find

Early in the morning, they wanna take me

Come on and free my soul na na and drift away

Source: LyricFind

Songwriters: Mentor R. Williams

Drift Away lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group 

Fighting is a choice we all have to make at one point in our life or another

PTSD Patrol
Kathie Costos
November 28, 2020

I never thought I would ever use the word Saint and Alice Cooper in the same sentence, but here it is. He came out with a song about not giving up, Don't Give Up. Fighting is a choice we all have to make at one point in our life or another. In this case, it is deciding if you want to fight for the lives of others. 

Do you only focus on your own pain, or search your soul to see what you can do to change the lives of others for the better, because you've been there and know what it is like. What it is like to be hopeless, afraid, lonely and discouraged, but you also know what it was like when someone came along and helped you feel better about your own life.

When Thanksgiving came, there were people all over the country, lining up at food distribution sites. Not to get food, but to give it out to those who would otherwise go hungry. When musicians take the time to come up with songs like this one from Alice Cooper, and Steven Perry in the other video, they do it, not for the publicity, but to use their publicity to make things better.

Right now, all over the country, there are people stepping up to make a positive difference. There are some out there who do not believe there is a plague and deny they are contributing to it, because they cannot see how they can make a difference in a positive way to help others through it. Try to not focus on them because they are not happy or loving people. They are miserable and spread their misery as fast as the plague.

When you have PTSD, you run into that type of person all the time. They deny what PTSD is and can make it feel as if the world is crashing in on you. Don't spend your time with the people knocking down the rocks on your head, but focus on those securing the walls to keep you safer.

Miracles happen everyday because people care and know where you are so they can help you, Seek them out instead of hiding from them. They can't help you if they don't know you need it.

 

Remember it is your life...get in and drive it! #BreakTheSilence and #TakeBackYourLife from #PTSD

Yeah, I know you're struggling right now

We all are, in different ways

It's like a new world that we don't even know

It's hard to sleep

Even harder to dream

But look, you've got 7 billion brothers and sisters all in the same boat

So don't panic

Life has a way of surviving and going on and on

We're not fragile, and we sure don't break easy

You know it's so hard to cope

When you're just hoping there's hope

We're all hanging on by a thread

We're all staring at the razor's edge

But we're not going to step off the ledge

No!

Our enemy is a cold, indiscriminate monster

It doesn't care if you're old or newborn, it exists to kill

You and I are nothing to it

It has no heart or soul or conscience

Do we fear it? Yeah

Do we cower before it? Hell no

We're the blood and guts human race, and we win!

You know that it's right

So we just gotta fight

Yeah, we're all hanging on by a thread

We're all staring at the razor's edge

But we're not going to step off the ledge

No!

We're all hanging on by a thread

We're all staring at the razor's edge

But we're not going to step off the ledge

No!

This is Alice Cooper in Detroit

Let's keep fighting

Don't give up

Source: LyricFind

Songwriters: Alice Cooper / Bob Ezrin / Tommy Henriksen

Don`t Give Up lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group 

Under neon lights, we claim this town

No one can take us down

No, not tonight

City Boys and City Girls

Runnin' Wild

Burning like a fallin' star

Golden stardust, that's what we are

Young voices carry on

Come together in the same ole song

We're still here

We're shadows fallin'

The night is callin' again

We're still here

Where love is runnin'

The night is calling, again

(Brother to brother)

Another night, another town

Walkin' my heart around

Same old choices, again

Like so many tears in the rain

Will they remember your name

Young hearts reach fearlessly

In the night

We're still here

We're shadows fallin'

The night is callin' again

We're still here

Where love is runnin'

The night is calling, again

(Sister to sister)

We're all together

(You know, I care)

We are

(We will)

Always

(Be together)

We're still here

We're shadows fallin'

The night is callin' again

We're still here

Where love is runnin'

The night is calling, again

(Brother to Brother)

Brother to Brother

(Sister to Sister)

We're still here

Where love is runnin'

The night is calling, again

v Source: LyricFind

Songwriters: Brian West / Steve Perry

We're Still Here lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC 

PTSD does not mean you are broken

Wounded Times and PTSD Patrol
Kathie Costos
November 27, 2020

Today I noticed that Wounded Times is still getting about 1,000 hits a day after months of not posting on it. That tells me the need to find this work, is still there. While I have been focusing on everyone with PTSD since June, I keep getting reminders that our veterans are not getting what they need to heal. One more reminder came Tuesday when I received a phone call from someone working with veterans. 

As we were talking, the sadness took over because he was having a hard time facing the fact that his work was hard to find too. So much nonsense out there getting in the way of what works, and what can change lives, more and more people are giving up. We're not! We are not giving up because as heartbreaking as it is to know how much suffering there is out there, the feeling we get when lives are changed, is so worth whatever price we have to pay with our own emotions.

I know first hand that life can change for the better. My husband knows that. All the veterans I've worked with over all these years, know that. I just wish everyone knew that.

So today, the daily video on PTSD Patrol is featuring Jon Bon Jovi Unbroken. If you are a veteran, you are not broken and you are not the problem. If you are a person trying to heal PTSD, you are not broken either. No one is really broken, a little dented, OK, but not broken.

I was born to be of service

Basic training felt like home

I had honor, I found purpose

Sir, yes, sir, that's what I know

They sent us to a place

I'd never heard of weeks before

When you're 19, it ain't hard to sleep

In the desert on God's floor

Close your eyes, stop counting sheep

You ain't in prison anymore

We were taught to shoot our rifles

Men and women side by side

Thought we'd be met as liberators

In a thousand-year-old fight

I got this painful ringing in my ear

From an IED last night

But no lead-lined Humvee war machine

Could save my sergeant's life

Three more soldiers, six civilians

Need these words to come out right

God of mercy, God of light

Save your children from this life

Hear these words, this humble plea

For I have seen the suffering

And with this prayer I'm hoping

That we can be unbroken

It's eighteen months now I've been back now

With this medal on my chest

But there are things I can't remember

And there are things I won't forget

I lie awake at night

With dreams the devil shouldn't see

I wanna scream but I can't breathe

And, Christ, I'm sweating through these sheets

Where's my brothers? Where's my country?

Where's my how-things-used-to-be?

God of mercy, God of light

Save your children from this life

Hear these words, this humble plea

For I have seen the suffering

And with this prayer I'm hoping

That we can be unbroken

My service dog's done more for me

Than the medication would

There ain't no angel that's coming to save me

But even if they could

Today twenty-two will die from suicide

Just like yesterday, they're gone

I live my life for each tomorrow

So their memories will live on

Once we were boys and we were strangers

Now we're brothers and we're men

Someday you'll ask me "Was it worth it

To be of service in the end?"

Well, the blessing and the curse is

Yeah, I'll do it all again

Source: LyricFind

Songwriters: Jon Bon Jovi

Unbroken lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group 

PTSD Patrol Don't Stop Me Now

PTSD Patrol
Kathie Costos
November 26, 2020

Happy Thanksgiving! That may not sound so good if you are spending today alone, or feeling as if there is little in your life to be thankful for. Maybe it is time you changed, not just what you focus on, but how you see what it is. If you have PTSD, and are suffering, you may view what followed surviving as punishment. You got sadder, more depressed and pulled away from the people you cared about. That's hard. Try to change how you see surviving as another chance to change. After all, that is what PTSD is. It was change from what you perceived as "normal" into trauma, and then back out as a survivor. It changed how you see things in your life.

There have been stories about people who died, and were brought back to life, reporting how they saw things. Bright lights, images of their life, replays of events and surrounded by warmth. For others, it was not such a pleasant exprience. It was almost like the story of Scrooge for them. Those who saw the horrific were also changed but for some of them, even that did not get them to change their ways. They went deeper into thinking only about themselves. Those who had the good experience between death and re-life changed for the better. Kinder, more thoughtful, wanting to be a better person, they made the best out of their extra time.

When you change how you view things, it makes a huge difference in how you see everything, little by little. If you wish you could have had the traditional celebration this year, know that you did the right thing by staying away from others because there is a raging pandemic out there. You are not contributing to it, but helping those you care about stay alive. In other words, preventing the need to regret a selfish decision. 

Now you can focus on next year. How much better will it be when you are healing even more and are happier? That is why today the feature video is Queen Don't Stop Me Now. You can be having a good time when things are better, because you will be better. Your outlook will be better and those you care about will know, you did this work on yourself for their sake. Think about that gift you will give them next year on Thanksgiving!

Remember it is your life...get in and drive it! #BreakTheSilence and #TakeBackYourLife from #PTSD

Tonight, I'm gonna have myself a real good time

I feel alive and the world I'll turn it inside out, yeah

And floating around in ecstasy

So don't stop me now don't stop me

'Cause I'm having a good time, having a good time

I'm a shooting star, leaping through the sky

Like a tiger defying the laws of gravity

I'm a racing car, passing by like Lady Godiva

I'm gonna go, go, go

There's no stopping me

I'm burnin' through the sky, yeah

Two hundred degrees

That's why they call me Mister Fahrenheit

I'm traveling at the speed of light

I wanna make a supersonic man out of you

Don't stop me now, I'm having such a good time

I'm having a ball

Don't stop me now

If you wanna have a good time, just give me a call

Don't stop me now ('cause I'm having a good time)

Don't stop me now (yes, I'm havin' a good time)

I don't want to stop at all

Yeah, I'm a rocket ship on my way to Mars

On a collision course

I am a satellite, I'm out of control

I am a sex machine, ready to reload

Like an atom bomb about to

Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh explode

I'm burnin' through the sky, yeah

Two hundred degrees

That's why they call me Mister Fahrenheit

I'm traveling at the speed of light

I wanna make a supersonic woman of you

Don't stop me, don't stop me

Don't stop me, hey, hey, hey

Don't stop me, don't stop me

Ooh ooh ooh, I like it

Don't stop me, don't stop me

Have a good time, good time

Don't stop me, don't stop me, ah

Oh yeah

Alright

Oh, I'm burnin' through the sky, yeah

Two hundred degrees

That's why they call me Mister Fahrenheit

I'm traveling at the speed of light

I wanna make a supersonic man out of you

Don't stop me now, I'm having such a good time

I'm having a ball

Don't stop me now

If you wanna have a good time (wooh)

Just give me a call (alright)

Don't stop me now ('cause I'm having a good time, yeah yeah)

Don't stop me now (yes, I'm havin' a good time)

I don't want to stop at all

La da da da daah

Da da da haa

Ha da da ha ha haaa

Ha da daa ha da da aaa

Ooh ooh ooh

Source: LyricFind

Songwriters: Freddie Mercury

Don't Stop Me Now lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC 

PTSD Patrol Do You Want To Stay Together?

PTSD Patrol 

Kathie Costos 

November 25, 2020

Today the video is up early make up for yesterday. My husband had minor surgery and was supposed to come home but they decided to keep him overnight. This morning when I was driving to pick him up, I heard a song on the radio and started to chair dance. 

It got me thinking about all the things we've been through and how glad I was that I decided to stay with him when things were not so good. The way I see it, I knew him when things were better. I knew his character and his heart. I knew he'd be worth whatever I needed to do to help him be happier.

The song is Al Green's Let's Stay Together.

This is for anyone who loves someone with PTSD. You need to figure out if you want to stay together in bad times as well as the good. Having PTSD isn't easy on them. It is hard on you, but especially hard on them since they lose hope as they see you pulling away from them. When they need you the most, they push you away so that you won't see how much pain they are in. That may not make sense to you, but there isn't much that does make sense when they are living on a rollercoaster with their emotions all over the place.

They feel the don't deserve anything one moment and the next, they are entitled to everything. They have overblown reactions to simple things and paranoia starts to take over too. They try to hide their pain so that you don't feel sorry for them or think they are crazy, and that leaves you not knowing what it going on.

There is no way we could have stayed together all these years if I didn't have a full understanding of what PTSD was and knew that things could get better with a lot of work and a lot of patience. Faith, well, needless to say, played a huge part in keeping me together too.

Listen to the lyrics and then ask yourself, do you want to stay together or walk away? My guess is that you love them enough to fight for them, the same way you'd hope they'd fight for you if you were the survivor who needed them!

"Let's Stay Together" 

Let's stay together 

I'm, I'm so in love with you

Whatever you want to do

Is alright with me

'Cause you make me feel so brand new

And I want to spend my life with you 

 Let me say that since, baby

Since we've been together

Loving you forever

Is what I need

Let me be the one you come running to

I'll never be untrue 

Oh, baby, let's, let's stay together

Loving you whether, whether

Times are good or bad, happy or sad

Whether times are good or bad, happy or sad

Why, somebody, why people break-up

Oh, turn around and make-up

I just can't see

You'd never do that to me

Would you, baby?

Just being around you is all I see

Here's what I want us to do 

Let's, we ought to stay together

Loving you whether, whether

Times are good or bad, happy or sad

Come on 

Let's, let's stay together

Loving you whether, whether

Times are good or bad, happy or sad

AZLyrics 

Wounded Minds is one of the first videos I did in 2006. It is about staying together....

PTSD Patrol When Life Gets Good Again

PTSD Patrol
Kathie Costos
November 23, 2020

Did you know that life is going to get good again? It always does. Ever since this nation began, we've been through terrible times, but it got good again. We've had wars and turmoil, sickeness and mass deaths, the list goes on, but out of all those heartbreaking events, miracles happened...and life got good again

The thing is, when it does, what will you be like? Will you be a better person? Kinder, more loving, appreciate the people in our life more and feel blessed over little things, or will you remain bitter? 

Today the feature video is Dolly Parton When Life Gets Good Again!  

A lot of people are thinking about themselves and how they want to be with their family and friends having a feast for Thanksgiving. Why? Why would they want to jeopardize the people they are supposed to be thankful for?

Some want to celebrate Christmas with parties and buy gifts for the people in their lives to make them happy, but fail to see they could come to regret it when it is too late, and next year, instead of gifts, they are putting flowers on their graves.

Feeling sorry is a lot different than regretting something like that. A bad decision for a good reason always has bad results. It is much better to have them around as long as possible, for when life gets good again!

Next year, you can be a happier person if you work on it so you'll be ready for when life gets good again, and you are healing.

Remember it is your life...get in and drive it! #BreakTheSilence and #TakeBackYourLife from #PTSD

Dolly Parton - When Life Is Good Again (Official Music Video) 

When life is good again

I'll be a better friend

A bigger person when

Life is good again

More thoughtful than I've been

I'll be so different then

More in the moment when

Life is good again

I'll open up my heart

And let the whole world in

I'll try to make amends

When life is good again

We've been brought to our knees

We've been so ill at ease

There are no guarantees

But you know life goes on

This too shall pass away

Bring new and different days

We need to change our ways

And right our wrongs

Let's open up our hearts

And let the whole world in

Let's try to make amends

When life is good again

I'll open up my doors again

And hear the message in the wind

Repent of all my sins (Hallelujah)

When life is good again

I'll try to be someone

On which you can depend

A helping hand to lend

Let's open up our eyes

And see what's goin' on

If we're to move along

From where we've been

Let's open up our hearts

And let the love shine in (shine in)

We've all got knees to bend

And we'll just pray 'til then

Ask God's forgiveness when

Life is good again

And it's gonna be good again

(It's gonna be, it's gonna be)

It's gonna be good again

It'll be alright (it'll be alright)

God's the reason for all things

You want rainbows, you get rain

We'll all be forever changed (forever changed)

I'll sail my boat and fly my kite

Walk in the park, go out at night

And hold my loved ones extra tight

When everything is on the mend

I'll even drink with my old friends

Sing and play my mandolin

We'll make it through this long dark night

Darkness fades when faced with light

But everything's gonna be alright

When life is good again

Source: LyricFind

Songwriters: Dolly Parton / Kent Wells

When Life Is Good Again lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC 

PTSD Patrol Don't Give Up

PTSD Patrol
Kathie Costos
November 22, 2020

When you believe in yourself, it sucks when others do not believe in you too. You know the right thing to do, and when it gets hard to do it, it is easier to just give up...but not better.

I know what that is like. I have over 500 videos up on YouTube and lost count on how many posts, but there are not many people who supported me over the years. I still believe in doing the right thing. 

When I met my husband, people didn't think it would last but we've been together for 38 years and married for over 36...because we believed. We believed in each other and got through the darkest times together.

"Even when nobody else believes, I'm mot grim' down easily" and that is why the feature song today is Andy Grammar Don't Give Up On Me.

It would be easier to do the right thing if you have support and someone to help you, but don't let that stop you. That is how miracles happen, Everything that has been achieved only happened because the people trying to do it, did not give up on themselves. 

Don't let PTSD stop you from believing in yourself!

I won't give up on you and hope you don't give up on me!

Remember, it is your life, get in and drive it! #BreakTheSilence and #TakeBackYourLife from #PTSD

I will fight

I will fight for you

I always do until my heart

Is black and blue

And I will stay

I will stay with you

We'll make it to the other side

Like lovers do

I'll reach my hands out in the dark

And wait for yours to interlock

I'll wait for you

I'll wait for you

'Cause I'm not givin' up

I'm not givin' up, givin' up

No, not yet

Even when I'm down to my last breath

Even when they say there's nothin' left

So don't give up on

I'm not givin' up

I'm not givin' up, givin' up

No, not me

Even when nobody else believes

I'm not goin' down that easily

So don't give up on me

And I will hold

I'll hold onto you

No matter what this world'll throw

It won't shake me loose

I'll reach my hands out in the dark

And wait for yours to interlock

I'll wait for you

I'll wait for you

'Cause I'm not givin' up

I'm not givin' up, givin' up

No, not yet

Even when I'm down to my last breath

Even when they say there's nothin' left

So don't give up on

I'm not givin' up

I'm not givin' up, givin' up

No, not me

Even when nobody else believes

I'm not goin' down that easily

So don't give up on me

Whoa, whoa

Whoa, whoa

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah

Yeah, yeah, yeah

I will fight

I will fight for you

I always do until my heart

Is black and blue

Source: LyricFind

Songwriters: Andrew Charles Grammer / Bram Inscore / Jacob Torrey / San Farrar

Don't Give up on Me lyrics © Warner Chappell Music, Inc, BMG Rights Management, Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd. 

I keep fighting voices in my mind that say I'm not enough

Every single lie that tells me I will never measure up

Am I more than just the sum of every high and every low?

Remind me once again just who I am, because I need to know, ooh oh

You say I am loved when I can't feel a thing

You say I am strong when I think I am weak

And You say I am held when I am falling short

And when I don't belong, oh, You say I am Yours

And I believe (I), oh, I believe (I)

What You say of me (I)

I believe

The only thing that matters now is everything You think of me

In You I find my worth, in You I find my identity, ooh oh

You say I am loved when I can't feel a thing

You say I am strong when I think I am weak

And You say I am held when I am falling short

When I don't belong, oh, You say I am Yours

And I believe (I), oh, I believe (I)

What You say of me (I)

Oh, I believe

Taking all I have and now I'm layin' it at Your feet

You'll have every failure God, You'll have every victory, ooh oh

You say I am loved when I can't feel a thing

You say I am strong when I think I am weak

You say I am held when I am falling short

When I don't belong, oh, You say I am Yours

And I believe (I), oh, I believe (I)

What You say of me (I)

I believe

Oh, I believe (I), yes, I believe (I)

What You say of me (I)

I believe (oh)

Source: LyricFind

Songwriters: Jason Ingram / Lauren Daigle / Paul Brendon Mabury

You Say lyrics © Essential Music Publishing

Lauren Daigle - You Say (Official Music Video)

PTSD Patrol Tell Them About It

PTSD Patrol
Kathis Costos
November 21, 2020

Today the feature video is Billy Joel Tell Her About it! When you have PTSD and you are trying to hide what is going on with you, the person you love, the people in your family, will have no idea what is going on with you. Most people have no clue what PTSD is and have even less of an idea about what you are experiencing. TELL THEM ABOUT IT!

If you try to hide it, they can see the changes and they wonder what you're hiding. Did you stop loving them. Did you find someone else? What did they do wrong to cause you to act the way you are? It isn't fair to them.

When you push them away, they push you away and sooner or later, you have no one to help you. You are destroying a good relationship instead of building one.

TELL THEM ABOUT IT, trust them enough to tell them about it and yes, even share your crazy dreams.

Remember, it is your life...get in and drive it! #BreakTheSilence and #TakeBackYourLife from #PTSD.

Listen boy

I don't want to see you let a good thing 

Slip away

You know I don't like watching 

Anybody make the same mistakes 

I made

She's a real nice girl 

And she's always there for you 

But a nice girl wouldn't tell you what you should do

Listen boy 

I'm sure that you think you got it all 

Under control

You don't want somebody telling you 

The way to stay in someone's soul

You're a big boy now 

You'll never let her go 

But that's just the kind of thing 

She ought to know

Tell her about it 

Tell her everything you feel 

Give her every reason to accept 

That you're for real

Tell her about it 

Tell her all your crazy dreams 

Let her know you need her 

Let her know how much she means

Listen boy 

It's not automatically a certain guarantee 

To insure yourself 

You've got to provide communication constantly

When you love someone 

You're always insecure 

And there's only one good way 

To reassure

Tell her about it 

Let her know how much you care 

When she can't be with you 

Tell her you wish you were there

Tell her about it 

Every day before you leave 

Pay her some attention 

Give her something to believe

'Cause now and then 

She'll get to worrying 

Just because you haven't spoken 

For so long 

Though you may not have done anything 

Will that be a consolation when she's gone

Listen boy 

It's good information from a man 

Who's made mistakes

Just a word or two that she gets from you 

Could be the difference that it makes

She's a trusting soul 

She's put her trust in you 

But a girl like that won't tell you 

What you should do

Tell her about it 

Tell her everything you feel 

Give her every reason 

To accept that you're for real

Tell her about it 

Tell her all your crazy dreams 

Let her know you need her 

Let her know how much she means

Tell her about it 

Tell her how you feel right now 

Tell her about it 

The girl don't want to wait too long 

You got to tell her about it 

Tell her now and you won't go wrong 

You got to tell her about it 

Before it gets too late 

You got to tell her about it 

You know the girl don't want 

To wait, you got to 

Tell her about it

Source: LyricFind

Songwriters: Billy Joel

Tell Her About It lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group 

PTSD Patrol And, feelin' good was easy

PTSD Patrol 

Kathie Costos 

November 20, 2020

Freedom's just another word for nothin' left to lose

Nothin', don't mean nothin' hon' if it ain't free, no no

Today the feature video is Janis Joplin, Me and Bobby McGee.  "Feeling good was easy" even though as the lyrics show, it sounds like their life together was not so easy. It was more of the state of the mind they were in where they were free to go wherever they wanted to, even though the journey itself was hard.

People assume that after you survive something, feeling good should be easy. They tell you to get over it and enjoy your life, but when you have PTSD that is the hardest thing to do. Feeling good is not so easy for you.

It is hard but you can achieve it. You can be happier than you have been because everything that you are, is still inside of you. So, if you were normal happy, you can be happy again. If little things made you feel wonderful, they can again.

I remember one day when I was at work before dawn. I was in the office by myself, put on the coffee and started to open the blinds. As I walked to the back door, the sun just started to rise. The sky became a brilliant mix of purple and red. I stood there for the longest time in awe. I could feel it in my soul!

That was after many times facing death and my ex husband trying to kill me...then stalking me. I stood at that door, looking at the engagement ring on my finger and I knew everything would be OK. 38 years later, no matter what hardships we've been through, we found the "home" we were looking for with each other.

Had I not been ready, stronger because I healed, that day would have never come. Had I not lived through everything I did, I wouldn't have been able to help my husband heal too!

Don't trade all your tomorrows for yesterdays you refuse to heal from.

Remember it is your life, get in and drive it! BreakTheSilence and #TakeBackYourLife from #PTSD

Busted flat in Baton Rouge, waitin' for a train

And I's feelin' near as faded as my jeans

Bobby thumbed a diesel down, just before it rained

It rode us all the way to New Orleans

I pulled my harpoon out of my dirty red bandanna

I was playin' soft while Bobby sang the blues, yeah

Windshield wipers slappin' time, I was holdin' Bobby's hand in mine

We sang every song that driver knew

Freedom's just another word for nothin' left to lose

Nothin', don't mean nothin' hon' if it ain't free, no no

And, feelin' good was easy, Lord, when he sang the blues

You know, feelin' good was good enough for me

Good enough for me and my Bobby McGee

From the Kentucky coal mine to the California sun

There Bobby shared the secrets of my soul

Through all kinds of weather, through everything we done

Yeah, Bobby baby kept me from the cold

One day up near Salinas, Lord, I let him slip away

He's lookin' for that home, and I hope he finds it

But, I'd trade all of my tomorrows, for a single yesterday

To be holdin' Bobby's body next to mine

Freedom's just another word for nothin' left to lose

Nothin', that's all that Bobby left me, yeah

But, feelin' good was easy, Lord, when he sang the blues

Hey, feelin' good was good enough for me, mm-hmm

Good enough for me and my Bobby McGee

La da da

La da da da

La da da da da da da da

La da da da da da da da

Bobby McGee, yeah

La da da da da da da

La da da da da da da

La da da da da da da

Bobby McGee, yeah

La da La la da da la da da la da da

La da da da da da da da da

Hey, my Bobby

Oh, my Bobby McGee, yeah

La la la la la la la la

La la la la la la la la la la la la la la la

Hey, my Bobby

Oh, my Bobby McGee, yeah

Well, I call him my lover, call him my man

I said, I call him my lover did the best I can, c'mon

Hey now, Bobby now

Hey now, Bobby McGee, yeah

Woo

La da, la da, la da, la da, la da, la da, la da, la la

Hey, hey, hey Bobby McGee, yeah

La da, la da, la da, la da, la da, la da, la da, la

Hey, hey, hey, Bobby McGee, yeah

Source: LyricFind

Songwriters: Fred L. Foster / Kris Kristofferson

Me and Bobby McGee lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC

Me and Boddy McGee

TO LOVE SOMEBODY by Janis Joplin

PTSD Patrol Can't Hurry Healing

PTSD Patrol
Kathie Costos
November 19, 2020

Today the feature video is another chair dancing song, Phil Collins You Can't Hurry Love.

When you have PTSD, it can be very lonely. A lot of relationships fall apart, so you are facing your pain alone. There comes a time when all you can think about is how much you want someone else in your life, but if you have not started to heal, then that new relationship will not work. When you love someone, you want to give them the best of yourself, but if it is trapped behind that wall of pain, and you are not ready, you have doomed that relationship before it even had a chance to begin.

After my ex-husband tried to kill me, the last thing I wanted was another relationship. After dating, I missed having someone in my life, but I was already healing and sure that I was ready when I met my second husband 38 years ago, the man I am still married to.

His first marriage fell apart too. We were ready for each other and then healed together.  He is a Vietnam veteran with PTSD, so maybe it was a little easier for me to understand what he was going through, just as he was able to understand what I was going through,

There are veterans who have had multiple marriages because they never invested the time in healing so they were able to give anyone the best part of themselves. You cannot hurry healing and you cannot hurry love but when you are ready, that new relationship can be so much stronger than anything you ever imagined it could be!

Remember, it is your life, get in and drive it! #BreakTheSilence and #TakeBackYourLife from #PTSD

I need love, love

Oh, ease my mind

And I need to find time

Someone to call mine

My mama said, "you can't hurry love

No, you'll just have to wait"

She said, "love don't come easy

But it's a game of give and take"

You can't hurry love

No, you'll just have to wait

Just trust in a good time

No matter how long it takes

How many heartaches must I stand

Before I find the love to let me live again

Right now the only thing that keeps me hanging on

When I feel my strength, ooh, it's almost gone

I remember mama said, "you can't hurry love

No, you'll just have to wait"

She said, "love don't come easy

It's a game of give and take"

How long must I wait

How much more must I take

Before loneliness

Will cause my heart, heart to break

No, I can't bear to live my life alone

I grow impatient for a love to call my own

But when I feel that i, I can't go on

Well these precious words keep me hanging on

I remember mama said, "you can't hurry love

No, you'll just have to wait"

She said, "love don't come easy

But it's a game of give and take"

You can't hurry love

No, you'll just have to wait

Just trust in a good time

No matter how long it takes

Now wait

Now love, love don't come easy

But I keep on waiting

Anticipating for that soft voice

To talk to me at night

For some tender arms

Hold me tight

I keep waiting

Ooh, till that day

But it ain't easy (love don't come easy)

No, you know it ain't easy

My mama said you can't hurry love

No, you'll just have to wait

She said "love don't come easy

But it's a game of give and take"

You can't hurry love

No, you'll just have to wait

She said "love don't come easy

But it's a game of give and take"

You can't hurry love, no you'll just have to wait

Source: LyricFind

Songwriters: Brian Holland / Lamont Dozier / Edward Jr. Holland

You Can't Hurry Love lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC 

PTSD Patrol head on the highway toward healing

PTSD Patrol
Kathie Costos
November 18, 2020

Were you born to be wild or was your imagination? I remember as a young kid in school reading history books and imagination what it was like to be them. What was it like to be the people who decided they didn't want to be under British rule anymore? They knew that they would be hated by people they knew but it was worth it to them to lose them in order to gain freedom for everyone. They were willing to pay whatever price they had to pay.

When I read books about different parts of the world, I thought about how wonderful it would be to see all those places and experience all the beauty around the world. My imagination ran wild with possibilities.

Your imagination was also born to be wild. Sometimes it can be a bad thing, when doubts and fears flood your thoughts, trapping you with all the pain PTSD caused. Yet when your imagination is fueled with hope, then you see the obstacles but figure out a way to either get over them or get around them.

What is your wild mind trying to tell you about this ride?

I like smoke and lightnin'

Heavy metal thunder

Racin' with the wind

And the feelin' that I'm under

The only limits you have are the ones you self impose. Time to "get your motor runnin'" and head up highway to healing!

Remember, it is your life...get in and drive it! #BreakTheSilence and #TakeBackYourLife from #PTSD

Steppenwolf - Born To Be Wild (Easy Rider) (1969) 

Get your motor runnin'

Head out on the highway

Lookin' for adventure

And whatever comes our way

Yeah, darlin', go make it happen

Take the world in a love embrace

Fire all of your guns at once and

Explode into space

I like smoke and lightnin'

Heavy metal thunder

Racin' with the wind

And the feelin' that I'm under

Yeah, darlin', go make it happen

Take the world in a love embrace

Fire all of your guns at once and

Explode into space

Like a true nature's child

We were born, born to be wild

We can climb so high

I never wanna die

Born to be wild

Born to be wild

Get your motor runnin'

Head out on the highway

We're lookin' for adventure

And whatever comes our way

Yeah, darlin' go make it happen

Take the world in a love embrace

Fire all of your guns at once and

Explode into space

Like a true nature's child

We were born, born to be wild

We can climb so high

I never wanna die

Born to be wild

Born to be wild

Source: LyricFind

Songwriters: Mars Bonfire

Born to Be Wild lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group 

PTSD Patrol road of truth and honesty

PTSD Patrol
Kathie Costos
November 17, 2020

Truth and Honesty! Why is it important when you have PTSD? Without it, you continue to suffer, and so does your family. They have no idea what is going on with you, so they blame themselves, searching for a way to understand why you changed. They have no way of knowing why you are no longer happy, or why you react the way you do. When they do know, then they want to help you heal.

I have seen too many families fall apart when the other person was loving and kind but were not given the chance to help. They ended up being bitter. Kids blamed themselves. No one was happy anymore.

Yet when the family knows that you are hurting, they understand where the change came from and they try to help you. Kids will want to help and may hug you more. Your spouse won't want you to sleep on the couch and get as far away from you as possible, because they understand you're suffering has nothing to do with them or how you feel about them, but that you need them and want them in your life.

Much happier ending for everyone!

That is why today the feature video is Aretha Franklin, Truth And Honesty! Enjoy!

Remember it is your life, get in an drive it! #BreakTheSilence and #TakeBackYourLife from #PTSD

I would like to see a show of hands

Nothin' concealed, roll up your sleeve

Nothin' up my [Incomprehensible] except my heart

And I believe we've come apart

I would like to see you play your cards

Reveal your hands and show your heart

Maybe we could get it back

With truth and honesty that's what we need to hold on

To the good stuff we believe in

Before we land up loose and sad and free

Before we find that it's gone

We could pull it back together, truth and honesty

Open up your hands, show me your heart

Let's stay up till dawn and talk it out

Nothin' concealed, no alibi, retunin' to light

Before we start, then all we do is fall apart

If I can see the sunlight in your eyes

Then maybe we all could shine, yeah

Maybe we could get it back, oh baby, yeah baby

Oh, truth and honesty that is what we need to hold on

To the good stuff we believe in

Before we land up loose, sad and free

Before we find out all that is gone

We could pull it back together with truth and honesty, oh

Open up your hands, show me your heart

Truth and honesty, oh, that's what we need to hold on

To the good stuff we believe in

Before we land up loose and sad and free

Before we find out that it's gone

We could pull it back together, truth and honesty

Truth and honesty, you know what we need, sure enough within

To the good stuff, the good stuff baby

You got to be real, you got to be real, you got to be sugar

To the good stuff we believe in, you got to, you got to

Source: LyricFind

Songwriters: Burt Bacharach / Carole Sager / Paul Allen / Burt F. Bacharach / Carole Bayer Sager

Truth and Honesty lyrics © Warner Chappell Music, Inc, BMG Rights Management, Royalty Network 

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My Lord
I have read this book so many times
But nowhere can I find the page
That chance, what I experience today has any grace
Now I know that life was meant to be hard
And that's how I learn to appreciate my God
Though my courage made me try
I can tell you I won't hide
Because the footprints show you are by my side
You can lie to a child with a smilin' face
Tell me that color ain't about race
You can cast the first stone, you can break my bones
But you're never gonna break
You're never gonna break my
Faith and hope ain't yours to give
Truth and liberty are mine to live
You can steal a crown from a king
Break an angels wings
But you're never gonna break
You're never gonna break my faith
My Lord
Won't you help them, help them
Help them to understand
That when someone takes the life of an innocent man
Well, they never really won, and all they've really done
Is set the soul free where it's supposed to be
You can lie to a child with a smilin' face
Tell me color ain't about race
You can cast the first stone, you can break my bones
But you're never, ever, ever
You're never gonna break my
Faith and hope ain't yours to give
Truth and liberty are mine to live
Steal a crown from a king
Break an angels wings
But you're never, ever, ever
You're never gonna break my faith
For those we lose before their time
I pray that their souls will find the light
I know that the day will surely come
When His will, His will, will be done
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, oh yeah
Yeah, yeah, oh yeah
His will, will be, His will will be done
(Never gonna break my faith)
Oh yeah, His will will be done
You're never gonna break my faith
Oh no, you know you won't
You're never, never, never

Never, never, never, never, never Never, never, never, never, never, never
Never gonna break my faith
Oh you ain't gonna break my faith

Source: LyricFind
Songwriters: Eliot Kennedy / Bryan Adams / Andrea Ramada
Never Gonna Break My Faith lyrics © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd., Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC