Sunday, January 10, 2021

DEALING WITH SHOCK IN DC AFTER CAPITOL ATTACKED

PTSD Patrol
Kathie Costos
January 10, 2021

America is in shock right now. Now is the time to take back your life before PTSD sets in. If you were in the Capitol on January 6th, you need the understanding and tools to help you heal.

The first step is to accept that you had no power over what others chose to do. You do have the power over what you do afterwards. You are no longer a victim of those hours...but you are a survivor of all of it!

Posted on Facebook earlier today

Members of Congress, their staff and people all over the country are dealing with shock from the events on Wednesday January 6, 2021.
Now it's sinking in: Wednesday's Capitol Hill riot was even more violent than it first appeared
(CNN) "As is the case with many traumatic events, it has taken some time for the reality to sink in. "I was in the crowd and didn't realize how bad it was until a day or two after," reporter Richard Hall of The Independent, a British newspaper, tweeted Saturday."

"Only later did it become clear that lawmakers feared for their lives; that some of the attackers were hunting for congressional leaders; that there could have been a massacre."
Shock will remain for a while as you process what happened. Returning to that building, will turn your stomach. As you come closer to it, it will get stronger. Walking up the steps will feel as if you are carrying a thousand pound weight on your feet. Walking down the halls will bring back haunting images of that day. Entering into the rooms you were in before it happened, will fuel a sense of dread. You will have emotional flashbacks. All of your senses will be taken over from then, so you will not feel anything but the way you felt that day.

Now is the time to take action before PTSD has a chance to take hold of your life.

Today on PTSD Patrol, there will be a special post and video about this.

When you enter this place, images will come back as you look around.

As you look at others you serve with, knowing they supported this, anger will try to overcome your sense of trust. It is one thing to be on political sides, and a much deeper level of division when they supported this. Remember, that you were not the only target, so were they.

The invaders were looking for the Vice President, chanting "Hang Mike Pence" while he was there to uphold his Constitutional duties.

Slowly the building will be repaired. Security will be tightened and you will begin to feel safer there. Those who attacked you, are being found and arrested. Considering the news crews were not the only ones filming them, but they provided their own evidence for convictions, they will begin to suffer the consequences for what they chose to do.

The Capitol rioters put themselves all over social media. Now they’re getting arrested.
(VOX) Many participants willingly — and quite happily — posed for photos and videos at the scene, or boasted of their exploits on social media and verified livestream accounts during or shortly after the melee, even though many of their actions may well constitute serious crimes. Apparently believing they weren’t doing anything wrong, or that law enforcement wouldn’t go after them for their actions, the Trump supporters paraded in front of cameras wearing distinct (and thus easily recognizable) costumes and, in some cases, even ID badges.

But you will also suffer the consequences for what they chose to do too.

Nightmares, flashbacks, mood swings, paranoia and anger, will invade your days.

What to do after experiencing a traumatic event(UK Mental Health Foundation)
Turn to others for support

It can be difficult to talk to close family or friends after a traumatic event. You may not want to cause them any distress or may simply want some space to process it all. However, it is important to be around other people when you feel able to, as they can help with your recovery and wellbeing. You do not have to talk to them about the experience. If you don’t have anyone close by to talk to, you can contact one of the organisations below, who will be able to offer further help.

Look after yourself

It is important to look after your health and wellbeing. This can include taking a break or some time away to deal with your experience. You should also try and keep a healthy diet and stay away from drugs and alcohol, which can exacerbate the problem.



Do not expect people you know to understand if they were not there. Turn to those who were with you, experienced the same event because they will understand.

Honor your feelings, Do not think you are supposed to be stronger or better than "this" because you are only human. If you need to cry, then cry. If you are angry, then scream. Honor whatever you need to, so that you will be ready for healing.

Letting out the bad emotions you are feeling, allows the pain to flow out of you so that healing can enter into you. Understanding and accepting what you were powerless to do, will fuel what you are empowered to do.

This is not a contest. One among you may be suffering at a deeper level. Do not judge them because you  will never know what else they have gone through before. Some may seem emotionally stronger than you, but that does not mean you are weaker in any sense. It very well could mean your emotional core is stronger and you felt it more. Just support each other and be there to listen for as long as they need to talk. You do the same for yourself.

As you support one another in healing, you heal together. Human nature dictates that helping is healing to the helper. Ask then for what you need and when you offer help, but they cannot express what they need from you, do what you would need from them.

The building will be restored step by step and so will you!

If the symptoms do not subside within 30 days, you may need more help to heal. Find a mental health expert who specializes in trauma.They are listed by state. It is imperative they understand the difference between trauma and other mental health conditions. They are treated differently because they are different. The only way to have PTSD strike is from trauma hitting you.

Trauma and PTSD Therapists in Washington, DC

Coming Out Of The Dark Gloria Estefan
Why be afraid if I'm not alone?
Though life is never easy
The rest in unknown
And up to now for me it's been
Hands against stone
Spent each and every moment
Searching for what to believe
Coming out of the dark
I finally see the light now
And it's shining on me
Coming out of the dark
I know the love that saved me
You're sharing with me
Starting again is part of the plan
And I'll be so much stronger
Holding your hand
Step by step, I'll make it through
I know I can
I may not make it easier
But I have felt you
Near all the way
Coming out of the dark
I finally see the light now
And it's shining on me
(I see the light)
(I see the light)
I see the light (I see the light)
Coming out of the dark
I know the love that saved me
You're sharing with me
Ever (I stand on the rock)
I stand on the rock of your love
(Forever) ever
(And ever) and ever
Can't nobody stop me, watch me
(Forever) ever
(And ever) and ever
Stand on the rock
Of your love is all it takes
No matter what we face
Coming out of the dark
I see the light
I feel your love shining on me (shining)
(Shining) Yeah, shining on me (shining)
I know the love that saved me
You're sharing
You're sharing with me (I see the light)
Sharing with me (I see the light)
Sharing with me (I see the light)
Sharing with me (coming out of the dark)
I cannot be in the dark
Making it into the light, yeah
Your love's shining on me (shining)
Shining on me (I see the light)
Shining on me (I see the light)
(Shining, I see the light)
(Coming out of the dark)
I see the light
I see the light (I see the light)
(I see the light)
Shining, shining on me
(Shining, shining)
I didn't think that I could take it (shining)
But your love helped me to make it (coming out of the dark)
Coming out of the dark
I see the light now
Yes, I see the light
(Shining) (I see the light)
(Shining) (I see the light)
(Shining) (I see the light)

Source: Musixmatch
Songwriters: Gloria M. Estefan / Jon Secada / Emilio Estefan Jr.
Coming Out of the Dark lyrics © Foreign Imported Prod. And Publishing

This is one of the first videos I did on PTSD for veterans.....

Why be afraid if you're not alone? Life is never easy, the rest is unknown. The song is by Gloria Estefan and the first time I heard it, all I could think about were the Vietnam veterans I spent so much time with including my husband. You are not alone fighting to heal PTSD just as you were not alone during combat.

Saturday, January 9, 2021

I have a problem with the "fix you" part

PTSD Patrol
Kathie Costos
Januray 9,2021

Today the feature song is Coldplay, Fix You. It is about when you want to help someone who is hurting. The lyrics are beautiful but I have a problem with the "fix you" part.

People tired to "fix me" after I survived multiple times. For a long time, I thought that love would "fix me" and people in my life thought they could. They tried to fix me after my ex-husband tried to kill me. Then I realized, I was the only one who could "fix me" and change.

That is how I knew my husband didn't need fixing. He needed support and for me to stand by him, encourage him and try to find the help he needed to fix his life. 

I've seen PTSD from both sides and trust me, when you love someone, you are in the best position possible to help them heal. Love alone cannot do it, but your time, patience, support, encouragement and being willing to fight for them, can give them what they need to start fighting for themselves too.

Those who do, are rewarded knowing that the person they love, is healing, happier and it is because of you!


If you have PTSD, remember, it is your life...get in and drive it! If you love someone with it, then help them do it!

#BreakTheSilence and #TakeBackYourLife from #PTSD

Fix You
Coldplay 

When you try your best, but you don't succeed
When you get what you want but not what you need
When you feel so tired, but you can't sleep
Stuck in reverse
And the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something, you can't replace
When you love someone, but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?
Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you
And high up above or down below
When you're too in love to let it go
But if you never try, you'll never know
Just what you're worth
Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you
Tears stream down your face
When you lose something, you cannot replace
Tears stream down your face and I
Tears stream down your face
I promise you, I will learn from my mistakes
Tears stream down your face and I
Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you

Source: Musixmatch
Songwriters: Christopher Anthony John Martin / Guy Rupert Berryman / William Champion / Jonathan Mark Buckland
Fix You lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Mgb Ltd. 

Friday, January 8, 2021

What is there when you turn the page?

PTSD Patrol
Kathie Costos
January 8, 2021

Yesterday we talked about how whatever you believe, will become your truth. If you believe you are stuck suffering, that is what your truth will be, until you decide that you do have the power to change what you want your life to become. You are writing the rest of your story from this moment on. What do you want this changer to be about?

Do you want to go from suffering to healing? Settle for being miserable instead of being happier? That is in your power. You are writing the rest of your life's story.

Today the feature video is Bob Seger Turn The Page. What is going on your next page? Are you going to just settle, or do what you need to so that you make your life better?

You cannot change a damn thing that happened to you. Whatever caused PTSD, is out of your control. Don't let it change what you write now. Use your  power and take control.


Remember, it is your life...get in and drive it!
#BreakTheSilence and #TakeBackYourLife from #PTSD

On a long and lonesome highway
East of Omaha
You can listen to the engine
Moaning out his one-note song
You can think about the woman
Or the girl you knew the night before
But your thoughts will soon be wanderin'
The way they always do
When you're ridin' sixteen hours
And there's nothin' much to do
And you don't feel much like ridin'
You just wish the trip was through
Say, here I am
On the road again
There I am
Up on the stage
Here I go
Playin' the star again
There I go
Turn the page
Well, you walk into a restaurant
Strung out from the road
And you feel the eyes upon you
As you're shakin' off the cold
You pretend it doesn't bother you
But you just want to explode
Most times you can't hear 'em talk
Other times you can
Oh, the same old clichés
"Is that a woman or a man?"
And you always seem outnumbered
You don't dare make a stand
Say, here I am
On the road again
There I am
Up on the stage
Here I go
Playin' the star again
There I go
Turn the page
Out there in the spotlight
You're a million miles away
Every ounce of energy
You try to give away
As the sweat pours out your body
Like the music that you play
Later in the evening
As you lie awake in bed
With the echoes from the amplifiers
Ringin' in your head
You smoke the day's last cigarette
Rememberin' what she said
Say, here I am
On the road again
There I am
Up on the stage
Here I go
Just playin' the star again
There I go
Turn the page
Ah, here I am
On the road again
There I am
Up on the stage
Here I go
Playin' star again
There I go
There I go

Source: Musixmatch
Songwriters: Bob Seger
Turn the Page lyrics © Gear Publishing, Gear Publishing Company Inc, Gear Publishing Co., Inc., 
Hideout Records/distribtrs Inc (gear Publishing Di, Hideout Records Dist. Inc., Gear Publishing Co. Inc.


I made this video a long time ago with this song for Vietnam veterans after a ride to the Memorial Wall in Washington DC.

Thursday, January 7, 2021

I hope you believe you are in control

PTSD Patrol
Kathie Costos
January 6, 2021 

(Resuming the normal videos today and putting up what I had planned yesterday.)

When you started driving, being behind the wheel instead of being a passenger was a little scary. In control of where the car went, how fast it went, and the safety of the person in the car with you was a lot to deal with. They may have been a little scared too, but they believed you'd do OK...and you did. The thing is, you believed in yourself, or you wouldn't have even tried.  

It is the same thing with healing. It is a little scary at first. You learn that you are in control of where you go, how fast you get there and how far you want to go. It helps to have someone with you, teaching you, encouraging you and helping you to learn.

If you believe you will never heal, then that is what your truth will be, because that is what you are willing to settle for. If you believe you as a survivor, you can be happier, be a better person and live a good life, then that is what your truth will eventually be, because you will seek to do it!

Today the feature video is Lena Horne, Believe In Yourself from the movie The Wiz. Just like in the movie the Wizard of Oz, Dorothy had the power within her all along, but she didn't know it. There was a time when you didn't know what power you had. Now, I hope you believe you are in control.



Yesterday I had to explain to someone what my job was. I told her that it is, as the slogan says, "Clearing the way to #TakeBackYourLife" from PTSD.



If you believe within your heart you'll know
That no one can change
The path that you must go
Believe what you feel
And know you're rights because
The time will come around
When you'll say it's yours
Believe that you can go home
Believe you can float on air
Yes, click your heels three times
If you believe
Oh, then you'll be there
That's why I want you to
Believe in yourself, yes
Right from the start
You got to believe, believe in the magic
Right there in your heart
Go ahead believe all these things
Not because I told you to, no
Believe in yourself, oohh yes
Believe in yourself
Believe in yourself, as I believe in you

Source: Musixmatch
Songwriters: Charlie Smalls
Believe In Yourself lyrics © Warner-tamerlane Publishing Corp. 

UPDATE
Can you feel a brand new day?

Wednesday, January 6, 2021

Washington DC...the darkest day in our history

PTSD Patrol
Kathie Costos
January 6, 2021

The video for today has been delayed due to the events in Washington DC. Armed protestors stormed the US Capitol. One took to the place of honor and shouted TRUMP WON.

Others took down the American flag and put up  the Trump flag.

This was incited by the president! This day will go down as the darkest day in our history because of what the president has done to this country!

 
UPDATE Assault on democracy: Sen. Josh Hawley has blood on his hands in Capitol coup attempt
Kansas City Star


REPUBLICANS KNEW TRUMP’S FRAUD CLAIMS WERE BOGUS
Just before the putsch began, Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell said sadly that we need to once again work from an agreed upon set of facts. Only now has he noticed that lying to the public on a daily basis poisons democracy.

“People have taken this too far,” House Minority Leader Kevin McCarthy said on Fox News. Until he had to run for cover, McCarthy was fine with this sick stunt.

U.S. Rep. Andy Barr, a Republican from Kentucky, said in a statement, “Today’s events at the U.S. Capitol are tragic, outrageous, and devastating. They are wholly inconsistent with the values of our constitutional Republic.”

Yes, they are. But they are wholly consistent with Trump’s calls to overturn this election to address nonexistent fraud. And they are wholly predictable, given the willingness of most Republicans to repeat these baseless claims.
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June 26, 2021 The new site for PTSD Patrol  is up and running. New blog posts will begin there on June 27, 2021. This site will remain up.

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