Kathie Costos
July 24, 2020
There are many different places online referring to the power of forgiveness. Each one of them is helpful. For right now, Psychology Today has a great piece from 2015 by Mark Banschick MD.
Should You Forgive? Forgiving — sometimes easy, sometimes impossible
Forgiveness requires a special kind of thinking that is not always easy; a letting go, a putting things in perspective and an acceptance that the world has been unkind, or perhaps even cruel to you.
Forgiveness and Trauma:
When a psychological hurt lies deep in our minds, like an early trauma or deprivation, or a violent betrayal, forgiveness will require trauma work. This is because trauma wires your brain to a fight/flight mode that can be triggered in multiple ways - and sometimes daily. You strive to let go, but you find yourself reliving the event, over and over. In order to do forgiveness work, you will have to deal with the depressive and often maladaptive ways that your mind processes trauma.
After surviving many other things in my life, the hardest one centered around domestic violence. That is what I am talking about in the video today.
Until I could forgive, there was no room in me for anything positive to get in.
After talking about the mind and what PTSD does, we're moving onto the most important part in my view. That is your spiritual path towards healing. It's the windshield. Hanging onto the bad someone did to you, keeps good things from getting in. There is no room when bitterness consumes you. This part of the videos is explaining how to forgive and see things in a different way. #BreakTheSilence and #TakeBackYourLife from #PTSD
